by Cindy Johantges

Fifteen years ago my family found ourselves in the position that many people find themselves.  Although my father had many health issues he passed away unexpectedly on the day after his 80th birthday.  Because of the suddenness of his passing, we were not prepared for all the decisions that needed to be made in a short time.  While we were grieving and in shock we had to plan his funeral.  We hope he would have been happy with the Mass we planned.

My mom is now 94 years old and remembers what it was like to plan my dad's funeral without him.  She has definite ideas for her funeral Mass here at St. Maximilian Kolbe Church.  She attended the Are You Ready to Die? meetings last year here at St. Max.  Father Jim discussed end of life issues in the first session and there were representatives from the local funeral homes and cemeteries in the second session to discuss Catholic funerals.  My mom picked up a packet to pre plan her funeral Mass and returned it to the parish office once she completed it.  She has favorite songs and readings and she also consulted programs from the funerals of friends to plan the funeral Mass she wanted.  We then met with Lakmé Kodros in the parish office to discuss her choices. My mom's plans will be kept on file until the time comes for her funeral.  It is also nice that Lakmé walked my mom through the areas that will be used for her funeral and visitation.

We also contacted the funeral home so my mom can make arrangements for her funeral and burial.

I am not sure if she realizes what a gift she has given to me and my brothers and sister and their spouses.  She has lifted a burden off our shoulders and she will have the funeral she wanted.

At the end of our meeting with Lakme, she asked if I wanted to pre plan my funeral Mass.  I of course said I was too young for that!  On further reflection, I am 65 and single and I think it is a good idea to move forward with planning my funeral.  Heaven knows what my brothers and sister would plan for me!